Are Your Standards Too High? (You’re Asking the Wrong Question)

In today's episode, we dive into one of the most confusing aspects of dating: the difference between unrealistic expectations and high standards. If you're a high-achieving woman who's been told you’re too picky or have unrealistic expectations, this episode is for you.

Key Topics:

- How unrealistic expectations can act as emotional walls in relationships

- Why we sometimes expect our partner to fill parental emotional gaps—and why that’s not fair

- The crucial difference between having high standards and controlling expectations

- How to set healthy boundaries while maintaining space for both partners to grow

- Why lowering your standards will never lead to the fulfilling partnership you want

Highlights:

- Unrealistic expectations are about control, while high standards are about respect and shared values.

- You should be the center of your own universe, and your partner should be a part of it, not the entire focus.

- Many high-performing women set unrealistic expectations for themselves, which translates into unrealistic expectations in their relationships.

- At the end of the day, your standards reflect how much you respect yourself. Lowering them means you’re doubting your worth.

Next week, we’ll tackle what it means to be a placeholder in a relationship and why accepting less than you deserve keeps you from finding real love. Subscribe so you don’t miss it!

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